That Which is Like Unto Itself...


The reason that we do it
is that we have been conditioned to behave
as reactionary creatures…

We are taught to observe the things that we don’t want
many times more frequently
than we observe the things that we do want.

In fact, most people will spend their lives
expecting some form of a bonus reward
for finding and exposing a problem.

What’s worse, most people are taught
that merely pointing at a problem
is good enough.

We are taught that only the rare few win the high-risk gambit
of imagining and seeking solutions…
so don’t even begin.

Problem-finding is the safe space —
the judgement-free zone
where it’s easy to deflect and redirect blame.
The unfortunate few who occupy the unreachable ladder rungs in the clouds
must bear the burden of manufacturing solutions.

The trouble is personal.
Because while it’s normal to see, identify, and dismiss things that we don’t want, when we are rewired to expect a reward for being problem-focused, we forget how naturally rewarding and easy it is to be solution-focused — to see and accept the things that we do want. Eventually it becomes such an ingrained part of our habitual thought process that when we examine problems, the very best that we think we can do is not perpetuate them.

It’s not always necessary to see a bunch of problems for the sake of finding a solution.

The shortest distance
to knowing what you want
is not a winding path
through every thing you don’t.

If you’re seeing an abundance of problems...

  1. Stop.

  2. Remaster the solution-finding skills
    that you were born with.

David Allen-Lawrence